How we choose to spend our time …

Penticton, BC blogger David Folstad’s recent blog post, Daily Choices and Math, got me thinking not only about what’s really important in life, but also how we might measure our success at living our personal values in that regard.  It’s all about the daily choices we make, big and small. He starts by reminding his readers of how much time we spend on the Internet these days compared to a decade or more ago, and how many of us are never far removed from work thanks to the same Internet that provides so many hours of “entertainment”.  The Internet is soaking up a frightening amount of our time.

He poses these thought-provoking questions:

What time and money will I look back on in one year or five and wish I had spent differently? What choices will I wish I had made? and you?

He then provides a simple, intriguing way we can each first identify what we engage in of a positive nature and not so positive nature and then cost-justify it.  This chart illustrates the kind of items and actions an individual might come up with.  Isn’t it interesting to see how much simple acts of kindness – and those actions we don’t give much thought to – can add up over a full year, and especially over 5 years?  The first step is to decide what actions you think should go in your personalized chart.  That’s what I’m working on at the moment.  After that come the numbers!


Of course, as a happily retired old person, I have far more time to waste/misuse than when work took up most of my time.  And being a happily retired old person with no responsibilities for small children, I have even more free time to waste or misuse.  So my chart will look far different than it would have 15 years ago, or 40 years ago.  Everyone will have their own list of items that they (want to) attend to, one way or the other.  As someone who lives by to-do lists, making a chart is a step beyond, kind of like a to-do list 2.0!

While I’m working on my chart, I’ll leave you with some related food for thought.  These quotes have been floating around Facebook recently; I think they’re useful reminders of what’s truly important and how focusing on what we can control (as opposed to what we cannot) can make a positive difference in these turbulent times.




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20 Responses to How we choose to spend our time …

  1. debscarey says:

    I’m still mulling on a post on my life coaching site which was inspired by David’s original post & yours has also been added into that pot now. Thank you Jane 🙂

  2. Dave was the one who introduced me to your blog, and I’m an avid follower of both of you now 🙂 Love the quotes!

  3. BernieLynne says:

    What a timely post for me. I am one step closer to retirement and now have more free time. I already find I am on my device too much so have set limits. Word Press is the only thing I allow myself to extend for the day. I do spend a lot of grandchildren time and know that will be the focus for the next 3 years till the littlest one hits kindergarten.
    As to the phonecall a day – I had a work friend call me today. Had not heard from her in eons although we text every few months. It was a lovely call and all the more sweet because she thought of me and called. Yesterday I called another work friend and caught up with her.

  4. Thanks Jane, I really appreciate this and will take the time to reevaluate my time and use thereof. I know I don’t always use the available time as well as I could but now you have me thinking which is definitely a good thing.

    • Jane Fritz says:

      You’re right that thinking is a good thing, Wayne, but I’m pretty sure you make good use of your time! Smelling the roses (metaphorically this time of year) is important too. 😊

  5. dfolstad58 says:

    Thanks for sharing to your readers. I find your writing Jane flows so naturally when I read. It is scary or inspiring to think how those daily choices add up. The one phone call a day one made me pause and think especially. There are many people I know that I haven’t talked to “live” in awhile and I think that is something I could easily add to my daily routine. A friend of mine in Kamloops facetime every couple weeks and it adds a whole warmer dimension to our chats. Sincerely thank you – David

  6. Thought-provoking post, I really enjoyed it! ❤️

  7. We certainly do have to choose how we spend our time—one of our most precious commodities. Recently, our family has come up with a fun thing to do in our leisure time—cooperative board games. After the dinner dishes have been cleaned up, out comes our current game—Reign of Cthulhu. Sometimes we win, sometimes we don’t. Onward, ho!

    • Jane Fritz says:

      That does sound like a great family activity. We played board games like that using Zoom (actually Skype) with one of our families when the pandemic isolation was in full force. Funny how those fun times fade with time; we’ll have to set a games night date with them. I’ll take a look at the game you suggest!

  8. margiran says:

    I’m new to blogging and trying to find my way round all of it. Bear with me please.
    Your post suggests some interesting ideas Jane especially for a list orientated person like me. As a (now retired) nurse/counsellor with a family I couldn’t afford to be disorganised so lists were useful.
    I find parts of social media addictive (time given trying to work out how to blog is mounting too 🙂) so not easy to curtail. Really makes me think though when I see my screen time increasing. Thanks.

    • Jane Fritz says:

      Welcome to the world of blogging, margiran. No worries; you’re doing great. I hope you come to love it as I do. Blogging and the people I’ve met (virtually) in the blogosphere have kept me occupied and sane during this pandemic. Retirement takes a while to figure out as it is without having the isolation of a pandemic added in. In my experience, blogging has nothing but benefits. And I count the hours I spend in that pursuit in the positive column! 😊

  9. LA says:

    You have no idea how much I love this!! Thank you!!

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